Source of Pain: Go Beyond Physical

What is happening just before you notice the sensation of pain?

I’m talking about the usual, familiar, probably daily pain in your neck, back, jaw, head or wherever it is for you.  You notice it on most days.  But what is happening just before you notice the pain.  Rewind your life just 30 seconds.  What were you thinking?  What did you read?  What was the conversation? Or most importantly, what were you feeling emotionally? 

We tend to blame pain on a physical incident, i.e. poor posture, moving wrong, effects of getting old.  But the more I do this work on myself and with others, I am beginning to believe that it goes BEYOND the physical.  When I ask the questions above to clients in interviews about pain, I get some blank stares, some slow head nods, and every once in a while I can see the light bulb turn on and shine bright.  It is the latter that excites me the most.  I know that this realization will begin to allow compassion and healing to occur.

So if you are in the blank stare or slow head nod category right now, let me help clarify the need to goBEYOND the physical.  I give you an example of own neck pain.  I thought I was getting a handle on it but it has really been bothering me for the last several months.  Here’s how it starts:

I feel a sting behind my eyes.  I hold back tears or even sometimes let them flow a little.  My jaw clenches.  I feel sadness and a heavy heart.  The base of my head and neck now hurt.  I am reminded of losing my Mom.  And it happens every day.

I can work through it 2 ways:

1.      Resist, Resist, and Hold Back the Tears.  Not in front of other people.  Not in front of the kids.  Raging headache and neck pain by the end of the day.

2.      Breathe, Breathe, Breathe.  Allow myself to feel the sadness.  Allow myself to cry.  Remember that the sadness is because she brought so much love and joy to my life and to my family.  Share a memory of my Mom with the kids or even with a stranger! Remind myself that these are expected emotions and that I am allowed to feel them.  As I really allow myself to feel the sadness then the neck pain diminishes a little.  Headache avoided.

So this is a big, glaring example.  But I had neck pain before this trauma.  The pain I had then was caused by little traumas like this or even more so “dramas” in my head.  Creating stories to keep myself from feeling.  Being tough and not allowing myself to feel fear, disappointment, guilt, etc.  I heard Brene Brown say on a Super Soul Sunday interview with Oprah, “the body keeps score, and it always wins”.   Every time I denied an emotion, i.e. stuffed it down, my body kept score.  And it lets me know it is winning with back pain and neck pain.

We cannot separate emotional from physical pain, especially when it is chronic.  But we can recognize and acknowledge the relationship.  My emotional pain is on the surface, but I’m sure I have some buried too.  I may need to dig deeper to find the source of other aches and pains.  It may not be easy, but I know it will be worth it.

Namaste,

Stephani

Extension Lesson #1: Stand Up!

Since first reading the book Sitting Kills, Moving Heals by Joan Vernikos, retired NASA Scientist, I have been inspired to STAND UP!  From a postural perspective, sitting keeps our hips and knees in a flexed position.  For most of us, this also results in a backward tilted pelvis (posterior pelvic tilt) and a flexed low back.  When the low back flexes or rounds, the rest of the spine follows and we get the HUNCH with flexion through the upper back, rounded shoulders and forward head.  Manifestations of sustaining this position day after day can occur anywhere in the body, i.e. headaches, neck pain, back pain and (yes!) even foot pain.

Dr. Vernikos studied the physiologic effect of weightlessness in space.  To mimic these effects on earth, she studied the effects of bed rest.  She says that the next worse thing that we can do is sit for 8 hours a day!  Sedentary adults experience similar physiologic decline as astronauts in space and it affects every body system: cardiovascular, musculoskeletal, digestive, neurological, etc.  Even if you exercise the recommended amount (150 minutes moderate intensity or 75 minutes vigorous intensity each week), you will not fully overcome these deleterious effects over time.

But what if I told you that you did not need to exercise?  

Will this make you happy?

So what is the answer?  

STAND UP!  

And do so frequently throughout the day.  Even using the recommendations for Correct Sitting Posture won't help if you sustain that position for 8 hours.  It is not how long you sit in total each day, but how long you sit at each stretch.  Find any excuse to stand up from that chair.  When someone comes in your office to talk: stand up.  Place your water bottle across the room so that have to: stand up.  Drink lots of water during the day so that you have: stand up (and take a walk)!

Break up your morning, move during lunch, and break up your afternoon with what Dr. Vernikos calls G-Habits:  Frequent (all day long), Habitual, Non-Exercise, Movement. Along with standing up, you can also do things like:

  • change your posture at your desk (try pelvic tilts in sitting or simply reach overhead)

  • heel raises while sitting

  • stand on one leg (try putting your socks on while standing)

  • try a rocking chair instead of a recliner to watch TV

  • walk tall (think book on the head or runway model)

  • use the stairs

Back to Extension!  The position of standing puts your knees, hips, and low back into extension.  A great way to check your standing posture is to place your back against the wall.  With your heels slightly away from the wall, can you touch bottom, mid back, and head on the wall?  I see the most problem with getting the head on the wall while maintaining the chin in a neutral position.  You should be looking across the room rather than up at the ceiling.

This book inspired me to develop the workshop:  Work Day Yoga.  It consists of over 20 easy movements to do throughout the day.  My guess was that you would want to develop some healthy habits in the new year.  So here is the schedule:

  • January 22 1-2:30 at Dublin Community Recreation Center

  • January 29 1-3 at beYoga and Wellness in Upper Arlington

  • March 5 4-5:30 at Balancing Owl Yoga in Dublin

(you can find links to these sites under the calendar on the Schedule page of my website)

Please comment if you do other activities throughout the day that keep you moving!  We could all use some good ideas.

Namaste,

Stephanie